What to Write in a Condolence or Sympathy Card

What to Write in a Condolence or Sympathy Card

What to Write in a Condolence or Sympathy Card

Determining how to communicate with someone when a death has occurred may leave you perplexed. When someone you know experiences a loss, one way to show your support and care is by sending a condolence or sympathy card. However, it can be challenging to find the right words to express your condolences. You don’t want to upset the recipient, but you also want them to know that you are here for them and thinking of them during this difficult time. Here are a few tips on what to write in a condolence or sympathy card that will let the recipient know they are in your thoughts.


Start with a Personal Greeting

Address the recipient by name and using a salutation such as, “Dear [their name(s)].” 


Express Your Feelings

Start the condolence or sympathy card by acknowledging the loss and expressing your sympathy. You can use phrases like, “I’m so sorry for your loss,” “My heart is with you and your family,” or “Please accept my deepest condolences.” These phrases will let the recipient know that you care and that you are sorry for what they are going through.


Share a Memory or a Thought

If you knew the deceased well or have a personal connection, it can be useful to share a fond memory or thought about the person who passed away. This will help the person receiving the card know that you understand and appreciate the person they lost.


Offer Support

Offering support can mean a lot to someone, even if it’s just telling them that you are here for them. A simple “Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help you during this time” or “I’m here whenever you need to talk” can be enough.


Sign Off with Care

When you sign off from your condolence or sympathy card, make sure you include your name and a thoughtful message. You can use phrases like, “With love and sympathy,” “Thinking of you always,” or “Sincerely.” Make sure that you sign off in an appropriate manner, based on your relationship to the recipient(s) which can be a family member, friend, colleague, or other relation.

You are Now Ready to Write (and carry out other thoughtful gestures)

Writing a condolence or sympathy card can be challenging, but it can also be an incredibly meaningful way to show your support and care. Remember to start with a personal greeting, express your feelings, share a memory or thought, offer support, and sign off with care. With these tips, you’ll be able to write a heartfelt condolence or sympathy card that lets the recipient know you are there for them during this difficult time.


Additional ways to share your sentiments and support would be to send or bring an appropriate gift while the mourner is sitting shiva or to make a donation to a charity of their choice. Another thoughtful gesture is to send a thinking of you card on the anniversary of the death, or Yahrzeit. 


Contact our funeral directors at Star of David Memorial Chapels on Long Island, New York, with any other questions surrounding Jewish funerals. Our team will be happy to help you. Call us today at 631-454-9600.