Fred Grafstein

Date: Thursday, January 14, 2021

Time: 1:00pm

Location: Graveside

Cemetery: New Montefiore Cemetery


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Stephen Rockmacher
3 years ago

It was 1970 something and we were in the motorhome. Fred was driving and it was my turn to sit up front. I asked him, “do lawyers do a lot of reading and writing?” He said, “yes.”” I asked, “do lawyers have to do math?” He said, “not really, unless they want to.” I decided right then and there I knew what I wanted to be when I grew up. I never told Fred that he made my decision for me, but I think he knew.

Whenever we visited Fred and Ann in Centereach, I would admire a sign at the bottom of the stairway leading to the upstairs playroom. Fred also had a small office up there. The sign read, “Honest Lawyer-One Flight up.” I wonder whatever happened to that sign. I never saw another one like it.

Every time we saw Fred he would inevitably start a sentence with, “I had a case…” then he would go on and on talking about it. I find myself doing the same thing. I hope people find my stories half as interesting as I found his, even though sometimes I had no idea what he was talking about.

Other than my parents, there is nobody else besides Ann and Fred who I have known for over 50 years. Wow!

Stephanie Weinstein
3 years ago

Dear Fred,
I always referred to you as my “other” dad when I spoke of you. Growing up with your family holds some of the most dear and absolutely funny memories I have. Passing rolls of toilet paper back and forth from motor home to motor home while traveling together, holding my hand on space mountain and endless trips to the Poconos are just a few. You always took my calls when I needed advice from a lawyer and I always knew it would be great advice, even though I may not have liked what you were saying. That is because you always treated me and my siblings like one of your own. I’m saddened that I haven’t seen you in quite a while but I know you will always love all the people who you held special in your big heart. Rest easy Freddie ❤️

Warren Rockmacher
3 years ago

When we were little kids and we would visit Fred & Ann in Centereach or Dix Hills, Fred would wake up early and make breakfast for all the kids. Fred always made french toast and would tell us that his french was “superior” to our father’s french toast. At 5 or 6 years old, we learned the meaning of the word Superior. This became a lifelong joke. Whenever we would eat, I would always ask Fred if his meal was “superior” to all others. Last time we went out to breakfast – a few years ago – I ordered french toast. Fred asked me how my breakfast was and I told him that his french toast was “superior” to what I had ordered. Fred laughed and said “You remember that”

I will remember for the rest of my life. May Your Memory Be a Blessing to all who know and Love You.

Lisa (Rockmacher) Mariano
3 years ago

I have so many amazing memories of Fred that it would be impossible to count. He was the kindest and fairest man. Our frequent visits to the Grafstein’s house and all of our travels together in the motor homes were the highlights of our childhood. We spent so many wonderful Thanksgivings in the Poconos and every New Years Eve together as families. Two of my favorite memories are when Fred always reminded me of the time I squeezed his sunburn during the entire ride on Space Mountain. Another is when I was also a little girl and Fred asked to borrow one dollar and he would repay me two dollars next year. After pondering this I declined. Fred said that’s too bad because next year is tomorrow! I can still hear his distinctive and infectious laugh. I can still hear Fred calling me LB, a nickname only family called me. Fred was like a favorite uncle or second dad to us. Trips to Off the Wall Raquet Ball or Saw Mill and watching my Dad and Fred play racket ball were always the best times. Seeing Fred with my Dad at the airport in Florida picking me up and asking when I’d grown up still makes me smile. Yes, Fred’s French toast was amazing. I never understood the sour cream on top but now I do! I loved Fred dearly and he will be truly missed by all of us. Thank you for the endless happy memories.