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Understanding a Funeral Bill

Become An Expert on Funeral Costs – What the Funeral Will Actually Cost You

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Understanding Costs

Understanding a funeral bill is a challenge for most consumers as a myriad of government regulations have complicated things.  Additionally, most people faced with making funeral arrangements are doing so for the first time. It’s pretty easy to get confused. We’ll try to simplify things here to help you become informed consumers so you can make good decisions. The more informed you are, the more likely you are to choose Star of David Memorial Chapel to help you.

The total cost of a funeral will ultimately be determined by the funeral service provider you choose and the specific merchandise you select. Once these choices are made, the total cost of the funeral can be determined.

The actual funeral bill is broken up in two parts. Part one includes the funeral goods and services provided by the funeral home.  Your choice of funeral service provider and the decisions you make regarding items like the casket, whether you need limousines, etc. will ultimately determine this part of the cost of the funeral.

Part two includes items considered “cash advance” or “third-party charges.” These are services provided by others that a funeral home will obtain and coordinate for you. They are not part of the funeral home’s bill but nonetheless must be accounted for and factored in when calculating the total cost of the funeral.

First we’ll explain the funeral goods and services part and then we will explore these third-party charges.

Funeral Goods and Services

The funeral goods and services (the first part of the funeral bill) that are typically included in a graveside service are:

  • Transferring the deceased to the funeral home
  • Preparation of the deceased
  • Filing of all paperwork and securing of all necessary permits
  • Scheduling the service for the day and time desired by the family
  • Taking the deceased by hearse to the cemetery
  • Supervising the service
  • Providing all of the religious articles necessary for the service
  • The casket

Additional goods and services you may wish to consider include:

  • Limousine
  • Shroud
  • Newspaper notice

The funeral service provider you choose along with the specific goods and services you select will determine this portion of the bill.

Cash Advances
Cash advances for a graveside service will typically include the following:

Cemetery charges to open and close the grave. Depending upon the cemetery, these range anywhere from $1000 to $1850 (and possibly more with overtime)

Clergy – if you don’t have your own we will arrange for one. An expected honorarium for a Rabbi is $600

Death Certificates – depending on the particular county where the deceased has been pronounced, each certificate will cost between $10 and $20.

Gratuities (which we distribute on your behalf), are usually around $75

Additional cash advance items, if requested can include a tahara, shomer, and airfare if the deceased needs to be flown from another state.

Important! – Because there are no mark-ups on cash advance items, those costs will not vary from funeral home to funeral home. For example, a cemetery grave opening charge will not vary no matter which funeral home or service you select. The same goes for the other cash advance items. What will vary from funeral home to funeral home are the charges for funeral goods and services.

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Choosing a Jewish Funeral Home

There are many things to consider when choosing a Jewish funeral home. Among the most important factors are the service, the location, and the prices. Star of David funeral home provides you with the service you deserve, a unique location conveniently adjacent to Long Island’s major Jewish cemeteries, and fair and honest prices, which happen to be lower than most other Jewish funeral homes on Long Island or the surrounding areas.

When it comes to service, the Star of David staff cannot be surpassed. Our reputation for compassion and professionalism is well-known throughout the industry. We take every step needed to provide you, your family, and your loved ones with the best experience possible during such a trying and emotional time. We leave no detail unattended, ensuring you a funeral service as seamless and painless as possible.

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Our unique location, adjacent to New Montefiore, Wellwood, Mt Ararat, and Beth Moses Jewish Cemeteries, is an additional value that only the Star of David funeral home can provide. You have the choice of either a graveside service or a chapel service, but either way, we are about 3 minutes from any grave in the cemeteries.

For a chapel service, our location eliminates the long procession ride to the cemetery and all the confusion and aggravation that comes with it. For a graveside service, our funeral home provides you with a nearby place for quiet time and reflection beforehand, or a comfortable meeting place after the funeral service has taken place. Having the option for either means you can plan a graveside service if you wish, but easily move inside should rain, snow, wind, or unbearable heat become an issue. Only the Star of David funeral home can provide this.

We know choosing a Jewish funeral home is an important process, which is why we pledge to do everything possible to provide you with the service and dignity you and your loved ones deserve. We are pleased to assist you throughout the entire funeral process. And we are confident you will find our new, uniquely located, state-of-the-art chapel, a smart and comfortable alternative to other funeral homes.

Please read some of our testimonials, and see for yourself how people feel about Star of David funeral home, our staff, and our service. Thank you.

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How is Yom Hashoah Observed?

Yom Hashoah, Holocaust Remembrance Day, is a day reserved for Jews, and people of all faiths, to come together and remember the innocent lives lost during the Holocaust.

Yom Hashoah can be observed in many different ways, whether you live in America, Israel, or anywhere in between. Ceremonies often include the lighting of candles to honor Holocaust victims, listening to the stories of survivors, and the reciting of prayers including Kaddish for the dead and the memorial prayer, El Malei Rachamim.

Yom Hashoah is one of the most solemn days of the year in Israel, as people gather to reflect on the past and pray in remembrance. Memorial events are held throughout Israel. Specifically, national ceremonies take place at Yad Vashem in Jerusalem. Yad Vashem is a memorial that was established to honor the six million Jews that were killed during the Holocaust.

Furthermore, on the morning of Yom Hashoah, a siren is sounded for two minutes throughout Israel. When the siren is heard, all work and other activities must stop. The moment of silence is taken so that all people remember those who perished during the Holocaust.

Additionally, there are various ways to independently observe Yom Hashoah. Lighting a candle on the evening of Yom Hashoah in honor of those whose lives were lost in the Holocaust, reading books, watching videos, or talking to relatives can all be ways to educate yourself and remember the past. Taking part in community commemorations is also another way to participate.

“Never Again” is now. It is more important than ever to teach future generations the importance of observing this holiday. Share stories and lessons learned from survivors with your children, and remind them to share it with their children someday. We must never forget, no matter how hard it is to talk about.

At Star of David Memorial Chapels in Long Island, New York, we honor lives that have been lost through our burial practices and funeral services and will always remember the six million lives lost, on Yom Hashoah.

Handling Loss Around Passover Time

Although Passover can be difficult for those grieving, there is always hope. Holiday traditions that will now occur with the absence of a loved one may be hard to navigate, especially when noticing their empty seat at the seder table. While healing takes time and strength, you can easily implement ways to remember and honor your loved ones during Passover. This will enable you to focus more on reminiscing about the beautiful celebrations spent together, rather than pondering their passing.

During Passover more so then other Jewish holidays, loss can be tougher to handle. Families have holiday-centric rituals that they practice at this time every year. For instance, the person who passed may have been the leader of the seder or the one that hid the afikomen. Continuation of these Jewish traditions proves that missing a loved one is impossible to avoid on this holiday, specifically.

If you have just recently experienced a loss, it is important to remember that it is okay to be sad or feel like you cannot attend religious services or a seder while you are mourning. You must check in with yourself to see how you are feeling; only do what you feel comfortable with at that moment in time.

If you make the personal decision to attend the seders and/or services, this will be an opportune time to reflect. Getting together with family members can be therapeutic. Speaking about those who have passed, may be difficult, but is encouraged to help mourners process the meaning of loss. Some people experience what is known as “complicated grief,” or a period of mourning that is prolonged over time without wavering in intensity. The hurt can be made less intense by talking about positive moments spent with the deceased.

If helping another individual to cope or pay tribute to the deceased, start by looking through memorabilia, like old photographs or letters with them. Continue a special tradition that your loved one started, or feature their favorite food at the seder. Display pictures or include some of their prized possessions or favorite items in the decorations around the home that is hosting the seder. Find a moment during the holiday gathering to reflect on the legacy that those who have passed, left behind.

It is important to remember to never let traditions die. Keeping memories alive and getting together with family, can help make holidays feel less lonely. It is possible to get through this now and next year on Passover, feel ready to unbox the memories and seat them at the table alongside those present.

At Star of David Memorial Chapels in Long Island, New York, our funeral directors are here to help provide guidance with questions pertaining to burial, funeral services, and cremation. Please contact us at 631-454-9600.

Does Judaism Allow Autopsies?

Different cultures and religions have developed specific rituals and behaviors in relation to the subject of death. The passing of family members, friends, leaders, or peers, can be an emotional and difficult time to navigate for many. As a result, various traditions and precedents have formed to help individuals say goodbye to the deceased.

Holding funerals is the traditional way to honor individuals, allow for mourners to reflect on the deceased’s life, and move on from the grief. However, other death-related activities, like autopsies, are much more controversial. Specifically relating to Jewish traditions, the debate regarding the permissibility of autopsies has been ongoing for years. Before taking a stance on this issue, it is essential to understand the two opposing sides of the argument.

Some scholars hold that autopsies should be strictly forbidden due to interpretation of Jewish law. Principles in Judaism forbid despoliation of a body once it is deceased. These scholars promote that an autopsy does not provide the body with the amount of respect and honor it deserves. Some rabbis have deemed a body “impure” after it has undergone examination through autopsy. Furthermore, the Torah asserts that disgracing a corpse is prohibited, including disfigurement of the body as a result of dissection through autopsy efforts prior to burial.

On the contrary, other rabbinic scholars believe that the Torah commands us to preserve and save lives. Therefore, if a physician can study a deceased body to help learn how to prevent unnecessary deaths in the future, it is permissible. All in all, these scholars argue that autopsies benefit the living and can be performed for this reason.

Although individuals hold different points of view, it is evident that the prohibition against performing autopsies is not all encompassing. An autopsy may be conducted on a corpse to directly contribute to saving a patient who is currently awaiting treatment, or to study a contagious disease suspected to have played a role in an individual’s death. The use of medications and hereditary disorders can also be studied through autopsy.

If another, smaller method can be used to study any of the factors listed above, it is preferred over autopsy in the Jewish religion. However, if death occurred and an autopsy is necessary, the operation must be performed as close to the date of death as possible, in the least amount of time. It is also common in Judaism for a rabbi or observant to be present during the autopsy. Most importantly, it must be assured that all parts of the body will be retained for burial.

When in doubt, consult a rabbi to clear up any concerns that you may have about what may or may not be permissible. Given that an autopsy is performed under special circumstances, this is generally not something that you would have to be concerned with when making funeral arrangements.

At Star of David Memorial Chapels in Long Island, New York, our funeral directors are here to help provide guidance with questions pertaining to burial, funeral services, and cremation. Please contact us at 631-454-9600.